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STI partner notification
Test costsSTI test cost in the Netherlands: free, insured, or self-pay?
Overview of STI test costs: GGD free for risk groups, health insurance deductible, and private home tests — which route fits you?
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STI testingSTI test after a notification: what should you do now?
A calm guide for reading the warning, checking test timing, following care guidance, and protecting privacy.
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Decision guidePartner notification or anonymous STI message: which fits?
When to choose an official partner-notification route and when PrivaNotify can help with safe, private wording.
Read guideSTI partner notificationHow to tell a partner they may need an STI test
A calm guide with example wording, what to avoid, and when anonymous notification can help.
Read guideAnonymous notificationAnonymous STI notification: when does it help?
When anonymity lowers the barrier, when direct contact is better, and how to stay careful without blame or panic.
Read guideSafe wordingWhat not to say in an STI notification
Safe wording, phrases to avoid, and calm before/after examples for a possible-exposure message.
Read guideNo shameReducing STI shame: why getting tested is an act of care
Shame can block action. This guide explains why testing and careful notification can be caring steps.
Read guideMessage examplesSTI message examples: safe wording without blame
Practical STI message examples, before/after comparisons, and rules for wording that stays short, calm, and non-accusing.
Read guideDecision modelDirect STI conversation or anonymous notification: which fits your situation?
An honest decision model for when direct contact is safe, when anonymity works better, and how to find a careful middle ground.
Read guideChecklistSTI partner notification checklist: calm, careful, and discreet
A printable three-phase checklist — before, during, after — to notify a partner about a possible STI exposure calmly, without blame or panic.
Read guideRecipient walkthroughWhat does the recipient of an anonymous STI message see?
A transparent walkthrough: what the anonymous message looks like step by step for the recipient — channels, sender, boundaries, and the next step.
Read guideWindow period & test timingSTI window period: when is a test reliable?
A calm guide to the STI window period per infection, when testing is useful, when retesting makes sense, and how to anchor an anonymous message on the test window.
Read guideFirst response & emotionSTI notification received: how to respond in the first 72 hours?
Shock, anger, or calm — every reaction is normal. A calm guide for the first 72 hours after an anonymous or direct STI notification: emotion, test routes, telling a partner, and your own boundaries.
Read guideMultiple partnersNotifying multiple sexual partners about an STI: a practical guide
When you need to notify several (ex-)partners about a possible STI exposure, practical and privacy questions arise. What order, how to word it, and when anonymous notification helps most.
Read guideExplainedWhat is STI partner notification and how does it work?
A clear explanation of STI partner notification: what it is, the official clinic route versus a private anonymous message, why it matters, and how PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideTelling a partnerHow to tell your partner about an STI
A practical guide for telling a partner about an STI diagnosis: when direct conversation works, when an anonymous message helps, and how to approach it calmly and carefully.
Read guidePositive resultPositive STI test result: what should you do next?
A calm guide after a positive STI test: get care, tell partners — anonymously or directly — and move forward without blame or panic.
Read guideGonorrheaGonorrhea anonymous notification to a (former) partner: how to do it
Gonorrhea spreads fast and often causes no symptoms. A practical guide for anonymous partner notification: when to do it, how to word it without blame, and why quick action matters.
Read guideSyphilisSyphilis anonymous notification to a (former) partner: how to do it
Syphilis is serious but highly treatable — and early stages often cause barely noticeable symptoms. A practical guide for anonymous partner notification: when to do it, how to word it without blame, and when PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideHerpesHerpes anonymous notification to a (former) partner: how to do it
Herpes is the most stigmatised STI but also one of the most common. A practical guide for when to notify anonymously, how to word it without blame, and when PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideHPVHPV anonymous notification to a (former) partner: how to do it
HPV is the most common STI worldwide — most people do not know they have it. A practical guide for when to notify a (former) partner anonymously about HPV, how to word it carefully, and when PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideHIVHIV anonymous notification to a (former) partner: how to do it
HIV is treatable and highly preventable with PrEP/PEP — but knowing early is everything. A practical guide for when to anonymously notify a (former) partner about possible HIV exposure, how to word it without blame, and when PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideContagious periodHow long are you contagious with an STI?
Per STI: how long you remain infectious without and with treatment, when to notify a partner, and when sending an anonymous message is the right moment.
Read guideHome testingSTI home test: how it works and when to use one
Practical guide for an at-home STI test: choosing the right kit, test timing, what to do with a positive result, and when to visit a clinic instead.
Read guideChlamydiaChlamydia anonymous notification to a partner: when and how?
Chlamydia is the most common STI in the Netherlands — almost always symptom-free. Guide to anonymous notification without blame, with testing advice.
Read guideNo symptomsSTI without symptoms: should you still test and notify a partner?
Many STIs cause no or minimal symptoms. When to test anyway, when to notify a partner, and what to say when you had no symptoms at all.
Read guideProtected sexSTI after protected sex: is testing still worthwhile?
Condoms offer strong protection but are not 100% effective. Discover which STIs carry risk despite protection and when testing is still worthwhile.
Read guideDisclosure obligationSTI disclosure after unprotected sex: what are your obligations?
Are you legally or ethically required to tell a partner about an STI? A calm guide to your responsibilities in the Netherlands.
Read guideDating appSTI notification to a dating app match: how to do it discreetly
Met someone on Tinder, Grindr, or another dating app and since received an STI diagnosis? A practical guide for notifying a match anonymously and carefully — what to say, what to avoid, and when PrivaNotify helps.
Read guideEx-partnerAnonymous STI notification to an ex-partner: when and how?
Guide to anonymously notifying an ex-partner about possible STI exposure: when it makes sense, how to word it without blame, and what to avoid.
Read guideSTI test clinicSTI test at a sexual health clinic: what to expect
Everything about getting an STI test at a sexual health clinic or GGD: who qualifies, how it works, anonymity, results, and notifying partners discreetly afterwards.
Read guidePrivacy & messaging channelsSTI notification via WhatsApp: privacy risks and when anonymous is better
WhatsApp always shows your name and number. Discover the privacy risks of an STI message via WhatsApp, when it still works, and when anonymous notification is smarter.
Read guideSender supportSTI notification sent, no reply: what to do as a sender?
You sent an STI notification and got no reply. A calm guide for senders: when to wait, when to do nothing, when a follow-up is okay, and how to handle your own uncertainty.
Read guideChannel choiceSTI notification via SMS or email: which channel fits your situation?
Compare SMS, email, WhatsApp, and an anonymous channel — visibility, readability, and privacy — and choose deliberately which channel fits your situation.
Read guideCasual encounterSTI message after a casual encounter: how to handle it
Sending an STI notification after a one-time or casual encounter is uncomfortable — but sometimes the most responsible thing you can do. A calm, careful guide.
Read guideTest timing & urgencyWhen to get an STI test after sex: a calm guide by situation
When should you get tested after unprotected sex, condom failure, or an STI notification? Situation-by-situation guide with window periods and test routes in the Netherlands.
Read guideTiming & notificationHow quickly should you notify partners after a positive STI test?
A positive STI test raises one immediate question: how quickly do I need to notify my partners? A calm guide on timing, why speed matters, what holds people back, and how anonymous messaging makes it easier.
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