How to tell a partner they may need an STI test
Sending an STI message can feel heavy. A short, respectful notification can help someone get tested in time and reduce further spread.
“You are receiving this because you may have been exposed to an STI. This is not an accusation and not medical advice. Please consider getting tested or contacting a sexual-health clinic/doctor.”
Start without blame
Use words like “may have been exposed” instead of “you infected me”. The goal is to inform, not accuse.
Keep it short and clear
The recipient does not need private details about your situation. They need to understand that testing may be wise.
Refer to professional care
Mention a doctor, clinic, or local health authority. PrivaNotify is not medical advice and does not replace testing or treatment.
Choose anonymity if it lowers the barrier
If shame, fear, or conflict is stopping you, anonymous notification can help you act responsibly.
Example message
“You are receiving this because you may have been exposed to an STI. This is not an accusation and not medical advice. Please consider getting tested or contacting a sexual-health clinic/doctor.”
Avoid these phrases
- “You infected me.”
- “Everyone should know what you did.”
- “If you do not test, then…”
- Explicit details that are not necessary.