Positive STI test result: what should you do next?
A positive STI test result is not a reason for shame. It is a signal to get care and, if needed, inform others. Here is how to do that calmly and carefully.
Stay calm. Care first. Then communication — at your pace, on your terms.
First steps after a positive STI test
Confirm the result and discuss treatment
Not all positive self-test results are conclusive. Contact your doctor, local clinic, or health authority to confirm and start treatment. Most STIs are very treatable.
Give yourself space for the first reaction
Shock, anger, or sadness are all normal. You do not need to decide anything immediately. Focus on your wellbeing first — talk to a trusted person, doctor, or clinic if that helps.
Make a list of who you want to inform
Think about recent sexual partners who may have been exposed. You do not need a complete list; focus on the period relevant to the STI you tested positive for.
Choose how to notify: directly or anonymously
Sometimes direct contact is the right choice. Sometimes an anonymous message is safer or easier — for you and the recipient. Both can be caring options.
Notifying partners: how does it work?
You are not legally required to notify everyone, but it is a caring step that can prevent further spread. You decide how and when to do it.
Two routes:
Direct contact (conversation, app, or message)
Works well when you have contact with the person and feel safe doing so. Use neutral language: "I found out I tested positive and wanted to let you know so you can get tested too."
Anonymous message via PrivaNotify
If direct contact feels too difficult, unsafe, or emotionally heavy. PrivaNotify sends a discreet, neutral message on your behalf — without the recipient knowing who it is from. No blame, no drama.
For care and medical information, rely on recognized health authorities.
More on STI treatment and partner notification via Soa Aids NederlandExternal source. No partnership or endorsement implied. Always follow professional medical advice for diagnosis and treatment.
What to avoid
- Accusing or pointing to someone as the "source" — this is rarely certain and can cause harm.
- Sharing names or details in messages or on social media.
- Delaying treatment out of shame.
- Contacting partners multiple times if they do not respond — one careful message is enough.